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Toxic relationship and pregnant

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by Cee, Feb 11, 2016.

  1. Cee

    Cee New Member

    Hi, I am 9 weeks pregnant and feel so alone and depressed. I feel like I have no one to count on. My partner is someone that is definitely not perfect and we have our issues but what relationship doesn't? I feel like I can't count on him as an equal partner.
    You know those type of relationships you see when you see a couple so deep in love and happy and they know everything about each other and can laugh with each other and have so many things to talk about? Well I wish I had that. Me and my partner are not like that. We can be happy at times but it's not real. I feel like he doesn't get me, not one bit. He got me pregnant last year around the same time and I got an abortion because we both weren't ready.
    We have been on and off for about a year and I got pregnant again, surprisingly after I even took plan b after. I cannot even think about getting another abortion, I just don't want to. I want to keep this baby. But I'm not sure I want to be with him. I feel so ashamed talking to my friends or family about my problems with him because they would just tell me to get an abortion and get it over with. I feel like they would be very negative about the whole situation.
    Him and I have different views on just about everything. He was raised completely different than my family. His family is very well off, judgemental and very religious and they judge very easily and are quite selfish and look down on others that are not as accomplished.
    My family is definitely not well off, I help my parents with rent every month, my family is much more humble and giving.
    I don't have that many friends but I do have some very close good friends but I feel ashamed saying that I don't want to be with him. They would just tell me that I'm stupid and I should just get an abortion. I don't know what else to do. I am scared that everyone will look down on me and think a certain way about me. I am scared no guy would want to date me after having a kid. I am scared about my future..
    Please give me some opinions, I know one can easily say to get an abortion but deep down in my heart, I want to keep this baby more than anything. And I want to be happy and healthy, I don't want to be depressed and be with someone who is completely not for me.
  2. thinkingcap

    thinkingcap Guest

    sounds like you are pretty firm about keeping the baby. just worried what other people will think. what's your parents' opinion on the matter? how old are you?
  3. flutterby

    flutterby Active Member

    You're better off mentally, living alone than in a toxic relationship. Can you get child support from the father even though you are not married? Not sure what the law is here on that.

    Have you tried working on the relationship? ie. learning to listen to and respect each other's real feelings?
  4. RDL

    RDL Guest

    I am pretty sure he is entitled to shared custody, or at the very least, visitation rights.
    She can't weasel her way out of that one.

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